Sunday, March 06, 2011
 
THINKING ABOUT MY HUSBAND
It's not his birthday, our anniversary or any special date in our lives together, it's just a day that I have been thinking about him a lot.

Many times over the sixteen years that Aaron has been gone I think and remember our times together. We shared the happy and sad times, helped each other through thick and thin, and made the most of the time we had together.

Wedding Toast

If he were alive today and I could ask him a question, I'd ask him this: "What were the happiest days of your life?"

I think the first answer would be:
"When my son Steve was born and I watched him grow up to be the person he was becoming."

Aaron and Steve

The second answer would be:
"After I retired and started spending winters in Florida
I had an opportunity to get away from the New England winters, make new friends, explore new places, try new things and share quality time with my wife in a new life experience.
I wish I could get him to confirm what I just wrote, but I really think that's how he would have responded.

It seems that the longer he's gone the more I think about him.

Little things happen and they remind me of him.

For example, just yesterday I told a friend of mine that she would have to make the call on Monday to the community center to reserve her space for a movie that will be showing next Wednesday. (I usually make the reservation for us but I will not be able to attend that movie)

Her response to me was, "Remind me on Monday."

WHAT!!

When that situation presented itself to Aaron he would say, "I'm reminding you now!" And that's what I said!!!

My usual "nice self" would say, "Ok, I'll remind you on Monday," but it came to me loud and clear - "I'm reminding you now."

She was shocked!!

NEVER GETTING LOST

My husband was "a map man."

Before we set out on trip, he studied the map, and knew exactly how to get where we were going, never had to stop and ask for directions.

What brought this to mind is my friend and I recently went to visit a friend who lives a distance from us. We got directions, followed them but somewhere along the way we got lost, stopped and "the nice man" put our destination on Goggle, gave us a print-out and we got there, took us two hours where the trip home only took forty-five minutes.

Never would have happened with Aaron.

These are just a few of the things that come to mind about my husband - oh yes - and his favorite song was, "You Made Me Love You."

Me too.

"You Made Me Love You."

Millie and Aaron


Comments:
Am I really the first to respond to this lovely post? I am sure that the your realize the years you had with your husband are golden. Many people have not been as blessed as you, but you are the type of person who deserves such memories.
 
It indeed sounds like a good and sturdy marriage. Your memories reflect how responsible and loving you were to one another. Thank you for sharing some very precious thoughts with us.
 
It is wonderful that your son resembles your husband so much. That way, every time you see him or give him a hug, you're hugging Aaron again.
 
This is one of your more beautiful posts.

God bless!
 
A lovely post, indeed, Millie. I think writing about a lost loved one helps to keep their memories alive.
 
It's wonderful how people remain with us for so long, sometimes their words popping out of our own mouths as we speak. Just proof that the ones we love are never far away. This is probably one of my favorite posts. Cheers.
 
Aw Millie This is so sweet. I loved reading about what you would like to ask Aaron. And good for you for saying "I am remnding you now"
 
Millie, Millie, Millie,,
I know this seems a little strange, but I loved Aaron as well. Of course not as much as you, but close!!! He always had so much wisdome in anything he said. I also remember the time he fixed the strap on my camera for me. Lots of wonderful memories of a wonderful person. Glad I had the chance to know him!!! XXOO to Aaron!!!!!
 
A beautiful post and what a beautiful bride you were. I smile when I think of your wonderful memories. As Tabor stated - you had many blessings. My soninlaw's name is Aaron...
 
A beautiful post and what a beautiful bride you were. I smile when I think of your wonderful memories. As Tabor stated - you had many blessings. My soninlaw's name is Aaron...
 
Tabor
You always have a way of saying things that are very meaningful. Thanks for your sincere thoughts.

Momma/Mary, Mary Vaughn and Lauren
Thanks for your kind words.

EasyDiverChris
I'll have to hug Steve more often!

Kenju
You are so right.

Chancy
I'm still learning.

Lisa
Even if you hadn't called me on the phone I would know that you were the one behind that anonymous comment.

What a nice think to say!
 
One Woman's Journey

Thanks for the compliments and kind words.
 
Hi Millie,

What a nice post. I still remember how much fun it was to visit your family when I was younger. Maybe sometime you might tell people about how Aaron was a magician?
 
You look like a lovely couple. It's nice to see that a marriage can last and be happy, especially after I just read a silly article about divorce-cations
http://thedailyapplication.blogspot.com/2011/03/divorce-cations.html
 
You were a very handsome couple, Millie, and you obviously continued to be a good couple.

Your wedding dress is almost as beautiful as the bride who is wearing it.

We do tend to think of our deceased partners more often as we get older, don't we? I have been widowed for 27 years and I still wonder what Wayne would say about some things and what advice he would give our children.
 
You were a very handsome couple, Millie, and you obviously continued to be a good couple.

Your wedding dress is almost as beautiful as the bride who is wearing it.

We do tend to think of our deceased partners more often as we get older, don't we? I have been widowed for 27 years and I still wonder what Wayne would say about some things and what advice he would give our children.
 
A very nice family ... I want to have a family like that ...

Nice info ....
 
Dear Mildred,
Your post has given me hope to think that marriage might be worth trying one day...
It seems that your husband has not left you as he is still in your heart.
Kind regards,
Azucena
 
Interesting -- though I've been a widow for a lot fewer years than you I've noticed thoughts of my husband seem to come to mind more, rather than less as might seem likely.

I know what you mean about not getting lost. My husband enjoyed reading maps, planning driving trips. A new atlas was always a favorite gift he relished. When I think of going somewhere now, I go to Map Quest, then print their route.

Enjoy your memories. Thanks for sharing.
 
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