Sunday, November 24, 2013
NOW HEAR THIS!
Pay attention to what is going to be said!
For the longest time I've been having trouble hearing.
It's been especially bothersome when I'm in a crowded restaurant, having dinner with friends, trying to hear what they are saying and trying to respond accordingly.
Here at Brooksby, I'm having dinner practically every night with a group of at least five friends at a large table. The dining room is noisy, crowded and to add insult to injury, some of my friends speak like they are telling me a major secret!
I know that I have a hearing problem, but those sweet, dear friends not only talk with the softest voices you ever heard, BUT two of those genteel ladies hold their hands in front of their mouths like they think I will attack them!
I have told them to speak up but just maybe they don't hear me!
When I'm home watching TV, I can raise the volume to my liking and I have no problem.
When I see a foreign film, I have no problem because I can read the subtitles.
When I have a conversation with one or two people in a quiet environment I'm fine, no problem.
One night at dinner I DID HEAR one of my friends say that she goes to an audiologist here at Brooksby Village and is pleased with the care she is receiving.
A few friends have told me about problems they have had getting their hearing aids adjusted and having to go time after time to get the right "sound."
That has been a turn-off for me - paying lots of bucks and still having problems with the hearing aids.
Ok, I'm willing to pay the price.
I accept that, as long as I don't have to travel a distance every time I need an adjustment.
When I learned that my friend is pleased with the audiologist right here at Brooksby, I called, made an appointment, and will see him in a few weeks!
What experiences have you had getting fitted for a set of "new ears?"
I'm looking forward to HEARING from you!
Monday, November 11, 2013
GRADUATING FROM THREE TO FOUR PILL BOXES THEN FLAMENCO DANCING
Years ago, when I first started to take my required medications, I had one pill box.
That worked well for many years.
As time went by I had to take more med's and the weeks were going more quickly. It was time to fill two boxes for a two week period.
OK, that was good for a while, than it happened again.
In recent years I've been taking more med's so it takes longer to fill the boxes. So what's an efficient girl to do? She has been filling three boxes to carry her through for a three week period.
We all know that as one gets older time goes more quickly.
It certainly was true for me this October!
I couldn't believe how fast the month went.
Next time I go out to the store, I'll have to buy another pill box!
Why did October go so fast?
Let's see if I can paint you a picture of some of the things that made the month fly by.
"The Great Gatsby"
1. I signed up for a six week class, book review of "The Great Gatsby" by F. Scott Fitzgerald. Each week we were assigned a few chapters. At class the instructor lead us in a discussion about what we had read.
At the fifth session, we attended the movie, and on the final night of the class a discussion was held: "How did the movie differ from the book?"
My impression - I enjoyed the book more than the movie.
The Great Gatsby
2. Years ago I stumbled into a short Chamber music presentation. My reaction at that time was, I don't care for that type of music. First impressions can be wrong!
It so happened that a friend of mine told me she was going to a Chamber Music concert being held at a beautiful church, would I like to join her?
Well, I remembered how I felt about that type of music but I was intrigued by what I had heard about the church so I said, "yes."
Glad I gave chamber music a second chance.
I was hooked!
The Soul of Flamenco
3. I signed up with Brooksby Village to attend a performance at a local college for an evening of an all-star cast of Spanish dancers, singers and musicians.
I had never seen Flamenco dancers - they were incredible - the two hour presentation was amazing.
That's just a sampling of what I did with my time in October.
It's no wonder the time just flew by!
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
FREESTYLING WITH MY SON FOR JIMMY FALLON
When my son Steve heard that Jimmy Fallon, the one and only of "Late Night with Jimmy Fallon," was inviting Moms to enter a freestyling competition, he immediately called his mom and asked her if she would "go for it."
Being "Thoroughly Modern Millie" she said "sure."
We got together, had a little talk about it and decided to do a test run.
It went so well, there was no need to do another one. Steve sent the video off to Jimmy and we waited patiently to see if I would be a qualifying "freestlying mom".
I was not one of the selected moms but let me tell you, we had fun doing it!
Hope you enjoy it as much as we did.
The supercut of Late Night fans recording their moms freestyle rapping:
Thursday, October 10, 2013
HOW TO WASTE TIME AND ENERGY
I don't expect there will be many people rushing to read this "How To" post but bare with me, I have to get this off my chest.
A LITTLE BACKGROUND
Up until last winter I had been spending the cold months in sunny Florida. There have been times when someone will ask me, "Do you miss Florida?"
Image: Walter CC BY
My first reaction has been, no, I really didn't mind being up North in the winter. I just don't go out when it is bitter cold.
Now when people ask me the same question, I have a different answer.
Yes, what I miss is how easy it was to find a small shop that catered to an elder like me. The shops were small, the staff was helpful and the prices were moderate.
Oh, and shopping at a flea market was terrific!
When I went into the fitting room the salesperson would check on me - "Do you need another size, another color or a different style?" And all this with a smile.
SHOPPING UP NORTH
There's a world of difference when I have to go clothes shopping up here.
I put it off as long as I possibly can, but there comes a time when a woman has got to do what a woman has got to do.
I have loads of spring and summer clothes but they don't do me any good in the cold months, so I finally decided to go out into the real world and try to find some clothes that would fit me.
I expected to find no moderately priced little shops, and no helpful salespeople.
I DID THE DIRTY DEED
The time came, I made up my mind, I couldn't postpone it any longer. Made myself a hearty lunch, a strong cup of coffee and took two Aleve.
I was as ready as I was ever going to be!
Image: North Shore Mall Courtesy SIMON PROPERTY GROUP
I entered the shop with high hopes.
Maybe this was the day I would find something!
Well, apparently Wednesday was a good day to shop because I found TEN sweaters that were priced right, my size, good colors and did not have to be hand washed.
Into the fitting room I went!
The long and short of this story is, nothing fit!
I came home wiped out.
I wasted my time and used up all my energy.
NEW WAY TO SHOP
For the longest time I've been considering shopping on line.
After this fiasco, I decided to order something from a sportswear company, no shipping charges, and if I have to return the items they enclose a return package.
Wish me luck!
How about you, do you shop online?
Friday, September 27, 2013
BINGEING ON BREAKING BAD
There's a first time for everything.
For the first time in my life I've been participating in a marathon.
It's not the kind that you run in, it's one that you watch on TV, from morning to night, day after day!
Breaking Bad, the long running award winning crime-drama is having it's final episode this coming Sunday night.
Image: Breaking Bad. Walter White (Bryan Cranston), Skyler White (Anna Gunn) and Walter White Jr. (RJ Mitte) in Episode 1 Courtesy AMC
For fans and people like me, the marathon started on Wednesday morning and has been running day and night ever since!
And you know what, I've been watching every chance I get!
When Breaking Bad first came on the air I tuned in and was turned off by all the violence.
I didn't like it at all, just not my cup of tea.
So, what happened?
A few months ago I happened to be watching the Charlie Rose show and he was interviewing Bryan Cranston.
Image: Breaking Bad cast on Charlie Rose Courtesy PBS
When I found out that HE had the lead role as Walt Whitman in Breaking Bad I was really amazed at what a bald head and eye glasses can do to change a person's appearance!
I gave the show a second chance and got hooked!
There have been many write ups about the storyline so I won't go into it.
What I want to do is write about how the actors are so realistic in the roles that they play.
For example, in one episode, one of the major characters gets killed, he is shot several times and dies!
Following that episode there was a special program, Talking Bad, discussing Breaking Bad with some cast members present and what do you know, the guy I just saw get killed, was alive, joking and smiling to beat the band!
That night it took me over an hour to calm down.
Ninety percent of the show can be very earth-shattering, bloody and shocking. I welcome some moments of relief where someone shows empathy, love, or there is a bit of humor.
I must say, very little humor.
Maybe I'm stretching it when I say I find a funny spot - for example:
The lawyer is asked to get the right person to "do the job."
I know a guy who knows a guy who knows a guy, who knows a guy.
Guess I am stretching it but a girl needs a little relief!
Do you watch Breaking Bad?
Are you hooked, and how did you feel about all those sad characters who couldn't get their lives on the right track?
Sunday, September 15, 2013
THE JEWISH NEW YEAR AND OLD FRIENDS
Last week the Jewish people celebrated the Jewish New Year 5774.
Here at Brooksby Village the Holy Day Services were held in the chapel.
ROSH HASHANA - Thursday, September 5th at 10:00 a.m.
KOL NIDRA - Friday, September 13th at 6:30 p.m.
YOM KIPPUR - Saturday, September 14th at 10. a.m.
If for any reason a resident was unable to attend services they could watch them on Brooksby's TV Channel 918.
I took advantage of what was offered and saw the two morning services on TV.
Photo by Sgt. Christopher Klutts: CC BY-NC-SA
The ROSH HASHANA service started at 10:00 a.m. and concluded at 1:00 p.m.
I throughly enjoyed the service, heard and saw everything, and didn't get out of my chair until it was over.
I did the same for the YOM KIPPUR service.
I was able to hear, see and appreciate the entire service.
Now about the KOL NIDRE evening service - that was really special to me.
Two of my dear friends who I have known for well over fifty years, moved into Brooksby three weeks ago.
Many years ago they lived in Massachusetts, and in later years they lived in Florida.
Like what happens to many of us, it came time to make a change and they decided to come back to the area where they had spent their growing up and married lives.
Over the years my friend and I shared many good times together and when we each got married, my husband, her husband and "us girls" got together often.
Even when they lived in Florida all year round, my husband and I made it a point to keep in touch. In later years when my husband passed away, we would get together for a good time visit.
I'm going to backtrack here a bit.
My friend and I had many phone calls during the period of "decision making time."
Whatever questions they had about living at Brooksby, I was there to fill them in.
And believe me there is much to know when you make a move like this.
BACK TO THE PRESENT\
Since KOL NIDRE was going to be an evening service, which started at 6:30, we arranged to meet for dinner and then attend the service together.
Sharing the holiday with them meant a lot to me.
What I was very delighted to see was HOW MANY PEOPLE my friends knew "from way back when."
When I came to Brooksby I did know a handful of people and believe me, it's a help when you come into a place and know someone who tells you all the little important things that makes adjusting to a new life style easier!
I myself met someone that night who had just come in a few weeks ago and when she heard my last name, she asked if my husband's name was Aaron and did he come from Lynn?
Yes, she knew him, they had belonged to the same club together!
The world gets smaller all the time.
I have found if you talk to someone long enough you will find out that we are all connected!
SHANA TOVA to all.
Sunday, September 01, 2013
DRIVING MISS DAISY
It has to be a good twenty five years since I saw the movie "Driving Miss Daisy."
As I think about it now I realize there are many reasons that I remember this movie so fondly and so well.
The movie stared Jessica Tandy as Miss Daisy, a wealthy strong willed old Jewish woman, and Morgan Freeman as her African American chauffeur.
Dan Aykroyd was her understanding and patient son.
As Miss Daisy aged, she became more dependent on her chauffeur, and yet she was impatient with him. The years go by and toward the end of her life she has a genuine love for the man who has been there forever 'to meet her needs."
I was in my 60's when I saw "Miss Daisy" and even then "felt" for her. Her son did whatever he could to help his mom but she didn't fit into the community and was "alone." The chauffeur understood her and put up with her crankiness and demands. What a pair they were!
So what made me think of this movie that I saw so long ago?
I'll tell you.
I've been living at a retirement community for a year now, meeting people from nearby communities and many who come from out-of-state.
They are mostly in their 70's and 80's, high school graduates, college graduates, homemakers, office workers, and many who have had amazing careers.
They are mostly in their 70's and 80's, high school graduates, college graduates, homemakers, office workers, and many who have had amazing careers.
So many times the conversations turn to when they drove, and why they had to give up driving.
The story I hear most frequently is where the son or daughter is concerned that the parent is moving to a new area and they will not know the roads, and let me tell you, the roads in Boston are tough.
So the newcomer gets here with NO CAR.
So the newcomer gets here with NO CAR.
Another story I hear is that the family is concerned that the parent is no longer capable of driving and they either sell the car or give it to a grandchild.
I hear that story time and time again.
I hear that story time and time again.
True, the person should not drive anymore, they are a threat to themselves or is a danger on the highway, but by not driving anymore they give up their independence, and that's a very hard adjustment.
Even though Miss Daisy didn't drive, and gave her driver a hard time, she had a good friend and right hand man to take her were ever she wanted to go.
I still drive, although I don't drive at night, don't drive long distances, or drive into the city.
Tomorrow I'm going to a family party that is far away, and on the other side of the city.
My kids are arranging for a car service to drive me.
Tomorrow, the driver will be Driving Miss Millie! ;-)
I still drive, although I don't drive at night, don't drive long distances, or drive into the city.
Tomorrow I'm going to a family party that is far away, and on the other side of the city.
My kids are arranging for a car service to drive me.
Tomorrow, the driver will be Driving Miss Millie! ;-)
Thursday, August 15, 2013
THE KID'S BIRTHDAY
In a few days this kid is going to be eighty eight years old!
"How can I say that?" you ask.
Well, I tell you what I've been thinking lately.
What was I like when I was a youngster?
What was it like growing up as an only child in a small city like Chelsea, Massachusetts?
As a young child I was a very quiet little girl, made no waves, whatever mummy and daddy expected of me, that's the way I was.
MADE NO WAVES
In retrospect, I do remember making one big wave.
It was a hot summer day and I wanted to go to the beach. For whatever reason my mother said "we can not go to the beach today." I was not a happy camper and persisted.
And you know what, we DID go to the beach that day!
I guess in some way I learned that persistence pays off.
BEING AN ONLY CHILD
In a conversation I had recently with a KID that lives here at Brooksby, I discovered that she too is an only child.
When we were growing up, neither of us felt that we were missing something that most of our friends had, siblings.
I do remember sharing time with a younger cousin who had two older sisters.
When she learned something "special" from her sisters, she would "spill the beans to me."
I never heard my mother complain.
Times were hard, but she did whatever she had to do with a smile on her face and a song in her heart! Oh, and could she sing!
That's where I get my positive attitude!
My dad was a very hard worker.
In my growing up days, dad would come home from work and have to go down the creaky dark cellar stairs and stoke the furnace.
Even as a child I would be concerned about my dad having to do that.
He did what he had to do and that was that.
I'm a dependable person, but I wouldn't go down those creaky cellar stairs even though I'm still "a kid."
In my growing up years birthdays were "cake and ice cream parties".
The one that stands out in my childhood memories is the time my mom, dad, aunt and cousin went to a waterfront park and had the most delicious strawberry shortcake!
This year, one week before "the day," my son Steve and his wife Carol took me for a mystery ride to a waterfront restaurant in Gloucester where we dined at a table overlooking the water.
The dinner was delicious, the sun was shinning, and the kid had the greatest time!
Monday, July 29, 2013
WHY, OH WHY CAN'T I MAKE A BLOG POST?
Why, oh why have I elected to stay home today, even cancelled a dinner date with a group of ladies who are very good company?
Why haven't I made a blog post in a while?
Why did I HAVE to take a nap this afternoon?
Why should I be so wiped out?
How could I figure this out?
Ok, a light went on and I looked at my calendar!!!
The activities of the past two weeks had me on the go practically every single day!
For a lady who will soon be eighty-eight, it was just too much.
Some of things I did that had me on the go:
A check-up with a Doctor - There's always an appointment with some type of Doctor!
The Glenn Miller Story - A Monday night movie
Have seen this movie a number of times but can never get enough "Miller"
Summer Fun with Charlie Chaplin
The Gold Rush
Saw this film many years ago and the one scene I remember is when "the Tramp"
is so hungry he cooks his "SHOE" and carefully bastes it so it's done just right. He slices the shoe with great care and then like a fine gentleman eats the shoelaces like he's eating pasta!!!
Charlie Chaplin was a perfectionist and when he was making this movie he had a problem - how to end the film - he paid the entire company for months until he came up with the ending and what an ending it was!!! I laughed during the film and at the end he had me in tears.
Tuesdays it's a Mah Jongg game. The past two weeks I was a winner - doesn't always happen!
Have a season ticket for musicals at the North Shore Music Theatre
This month it was "The Wizard of Oz."
The cast members did a fine job and even Toto, Dorothy's dog did what he had to do every step of the way!
There was more but you get the idea!
PLAYING CATCH UP
When I choose to control my time, I plan on being out and about two days in a row, and the third day I stay home and "play catch-up."
Today has been a great day to stay home, catch my breath and get ready for another week which I hope will find me spending some time on my patio, relaxing. reading and not running around!
Sunday, July 14, 2013
TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF HAVING A COMPUTER
Having a computer has changed her life in many ways.
Now when she wakes up in the morning and feels like just staying in bed a little longer she thinks about what could be on her computer.
Could there be a message or joke from a friend, a news item of interest or a photo her son has taken on his daily walk?
Even before she has her morning coffee she has to go see what's going on in the world, that's saying a lot because she loves that first cup of coffee.
STRANGE THINGS HAPPEN
About two weeks ago she attempted to do her morning routine and what do you know, "nothing happened!"
She tried this and tried that, nothing worked!
It's never a good time for a computer to get temperamental, but her savvy computer son was on a week's vacation.
What to do?
She didn't want to disturb him, and didn't have a knowledgable friend or service person to walk in and save the day.
Finally she decided to call the Apple store where the computer was purchased.
A fine computer specialist asked questions and got the lay of the land.
Suggested she pull the power plug, wait a few minutes and reinsert the plug.
She told the specialist that the power cord was plugged into a surge protector on the floor behind the desk and there was no way she could get down there.
The specialist said she could pull the plug out of the back of the iMac.
She tried but it was hard to pull.
The specialist said to pull harder, and it came out.
Next the specialist said to put it back in.
"Put it back in?" OK. She tried.
It wouldn't go in all the way.
The specialist told her to push it a little harder.
She did that AND the computer came back to life!
She thanked him profusely and he responded accordingly!
Time went by, the computer worked fine and her son returned from his trip.
STRANGE THINGS HAPPEN AGAIN
She was having a grand old time until one day the computer started to act up, working but not behaving well.
She remembered what that fine computer specialist had suggested and pulled the power plug again.
After having a few cups of coffee, she called the Apple Store and spoke to another fine computer specialist.
This time the specialist said it might be a defective power cord and would take five to seven days for delivery.
FIVE to SEVEN DAYS - forget that.
Fortunately her son had returned from his vacation.
Mother called and brought him up to date on the bad behavior of the computer.
He and his wife were fast as the Easter bunny, arrived with a laptop just incase, and the box that the computer had been packed in, just in case they had to go to the Apple store.
He checked this and that, and discovered what the problem was.
A plug on the surge protector had shorted out!
Off the family went for a very nice dinner and a stop at a Walmart store to purchase a 6 Outlet Surge protector.
She's fortunate to have a son that knows his business and is there to help his mom when she needs him.
Sunday, June 30, 2013
I'LL BE MAKING A CHANGE IN JULY
What could Millie be up to now, you ask?
She's not going to Florida like she has in the past, she has gone from living in a condo to living in a senior community, and she's still driving!
I'll be observing my one year anniversary at Brooksby at the end of this month and as I have written over this past year, I'm very happy here.
I like my apartment, have met some great people, and enjoy many of the activities and programs that are offered.
There is one thing that I have been thinking about changing.
Brooksby offers a flexible meal plan where you can sign up for either a "20 Meal Plan" or a "Monthly Plan."
In the monthly plan the resident may use the plan for 30 days, or however many days there are in a particular month.
In the 20 meal plan, the resident will have 20 meals,, in any calendar month, to use at his/her discretion.
The opportunity to change plans is offered quarterly.
I'm making the change.
When I first came to Brooksby it was all a learning experience, even going to the dining room.
Dinner is served from 5:00 to 7:00
That was hard to adjust to.
Which dining room to go to, who to sit with, should I have the soup AND the SALAD?
Should I have the PIE and ICE CREAM too?
How can I avoid the Brooksby Bulge?
In addition to all the afore mentioned considerations, I found going to the dining room every night just too much eating.
Being at the dining room at an appointed time was "not for me."
With the Flexible meal plan I can go to the dining room whatever day works for me!
If I'm out shopping and feel like having a bite to eat I can pick up a light meal or if I just feel like staying home and eating at 6:00 or 7:00, I can do that!
Oh and another plus, I won't be eating so much!
One thing does concern me.
I just might want to cook something and certainly won't want to fuss so I'll be looking for some nice and easy recipes.
Any help in this direction would be appreciated!
Sunday, June 23, 2013
THE SOUND OF MUSIC
A few months ago I had the opportunity to sign up for a series of plays that were to be held at a theatre in the round at the North Shore Music Theatre in Beverly, Ma.
The package that was offered consisted of five plays.
If you signed up for that package, you paid for four shows, and got the fifth one at no cost.
The only trouble with that offer was that you really weren't excited about all of the plays but a good deal is a good deal so I decided, what the heck, I'm going!
Last Wednesday I attend the first play of the season.
It was "The Sound of Music."
I've seen the movie a number of times, saw the play and over the years whenever I heard the Roger and Hammerstein music I thought of Julie Andrews singing all the wonderful songs from that musical.
So I figured, ok, I'll see it again, it should be a pleasant afternoon.
Well, was I surprised!!
Here it is almost a week later and my friends and I are still talking about it!!
From the moment "Maria", played by Lisa O'Hare, opened her mouth and sang "The Sound of Music" I was mesmerized.
She not only had a magnificent voice, she was MARIA - the way she talked to the children, the way her body moved and how she danced - perfection!
Lisa O'Hare: Image courtesy Lisa Keating Photography
Captain Georg von Trapp, played by David Andrew Macdonald, was no slouch either.
As a widower and former navy commander he subjects his children to military style discipline. He did a fine job singing but what I really enjoyed seeing was when he "melted."
In one scene his youngest little girl stands before him with out-strechted arms and wants a hug from daddy - it takes a minute and he gives her a hug!
For me there were many moments where a song was sung by an outstanding performer where I did not applaud right away - I don't ever remember being so enthralled with the number that it took me a minute to respond!
Everyone involved with this production did a marvelous job and made "The Sound of Music" come alive to the audience!
Saturday, June 08, 2013
WHAT'S SPECIAL ABOUT TODAY?
I'm spending the whole day home, not going out to the market, not going to a doctors appointment, not going to get my hair done, not going to the bank, not playing Mah Jong, not going to the movies, not even going to dinner at the clubhouse.
Imagine being delighted just to do the laundry, pay some bills, straighten out some drawers, make some overdue phone calls and even make a post!
I've been out just about every day this week.
At my age if I'm out two days in a row, I have to stay home the third day.
Sometimes I am able to control how I spend my time, sometimes I don't want to miss the game, the movie, or the concert, so I just GO.
Last week was particularly "NICE BUSY."
I took advantage of a trip offered by Brooksby to go into Boston's Symphony Hall to see the Boston Pops Orchestra conducted by Keith Lockhart.
The program was, "Music From The Man Men Era." I had to go, no question.
I got more than I bargained for - not only did I hear music from that time period, Steve Lippia sang many of the Sinatra ballads. He didn't sound like Sinatra, but he had a great voice and it was a pleasure to hear the songs from that time period.
And then a big surprise - a large screen was lowered and what do you know, there was the opening scene and music to the TV show Mad Men!
THEN there were moments from previous episodes featuring stars from the show PLUS members of the POPS inserted into the action.
For those of you who watch Mad Men you know how many episodes have Don Draper in the elevator, Well in one scene Keith was in the elevator with Don!
The audience loved that!!! Me too!!!
Modern technology is wonderful!
I've had a great time today and it's not over yet.
Planning on heating up an easy supper, relaxing with a glass of wine, maybe even have a little ice cream for desert, and then put my feet up and look for a good movie on TV.
Can you stay home and be content or do you have to run?
Saturday, May 25, 2013
COMEDY AND DRAMA AT THE SUPERMARKET
Going to the supermarket is a chore for me, but a girl has got to do what a girl has got to do.
There are times when I just need a few things, so I drop into a small store where I can pick up things like milk, bread or bananas, that tides me over until the time comes when I say, "Millie, you really have to go to the BIG market."
A few days ago I got the message and could not put it off any longer.
Truth be told, once I complete shopping at the BIG store, park my car and schlep my purchases into my apartment, I'm a very happy camper because I know I won't be going to the BIG store for awhile.
While I'm at the BIG store, my goal is to get the things that are on my list, use the coupons that I have taken with me and not succumb to the specials that are at the end of every aisle.
I never succeed in all of those goals in one shopping trip.
Sometimes I go hunting in my bag for my list, can't find it, look for the coupons I have worked so diligently to bring along, and discover that they have expired and the items at the end of the aisle are really good buys!
I can always count on a free hot cup of coffee, which is located right near the wonderful pastry department.
Sometimes, if I'm lucky, there are some samples offered to the weary customers. I appreciate the opportunity to stop shopping, have a hot drink, and help them promote their pastry.
There are times I see someone I know who feels the same as I do about shopping, so we stop and have a chat.
I'm always on the look-out for a diversion.
On a recent shopping trip I noticed what appeared to be a husband and wife shopping.
She was telling him that she wanted him to get her an item that was on the very top shelf. He reached for it, couldn't get it.
He stood on his tiptoes and still couldn't get it.
Finally he took his life in his hands and stood on a narrow shelf and was successful, HE GO IT!!!
Was the wife happy?
NO, he got the wrong item!!!
In a loud voice she said, "forget it, I'll get someone to help me."
I couldn't help thinking, "boy, what kind of marriage do they have?"
Next time I go to the market I hope I'll see something that will give me a laugh!
When you go to the market, do you see comedy and drama or just see high prices?
Thursday, May 16, 2013
ME AND THE MOVIES
One thing is for sure: As time goes by, things change, even the way I see movies today.
When I was a youngster, going to the movies was the big event of the week.
My mom would pack me a lunch, usually a salami sandwich, just in case I got hungry. After all, I child would need some nourishment after spending a few hours watching the news, the coming attractions, a short cartoon, and the main feature.
In those days I don't think the movie theaters sold popcorn or maybe because it was the depression era it was cheaper to make me a sandwich than to buy the popcorn?
Going to the movies with your friends was the thing to do on a Saturday night.
After the movie we would go to the local ice cream parlor and visit with the boys and girls.
One big thing I remember as a teenager was taking my young cousin to the movies for the first time, I was as excited taking her to the movies as she was seeing her first film.
DATING IN THE FORTIES
When a young man took you out on a Saturday night it was to a movie and then a stop at a sandwich shop for a bite to eat. The fellows were just coming out of the service, money was tight, so it had to be a really special occasion if we went out to dinner.
I'm going to skip ahead now to the 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's, 90's to the present day.
All these years I have been an avid movie goer.
If there was a good movie to see, I saw it. If a friend wanted to know about a movie, they would ask me. All this was happening before Google, I was their source of information and loved keeping up with the movies.
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How things have changed!
First, in my opinion, the movies have changed. There aren't many that I want to see, that's a turn-off right away.
It's been a few years since I've stopped going to the movies like I used to.
In the nine months that I have been living at Brooksby Village I have not been "off campus' to see a movie.
Recently on Monday nights Brooksby has shown Life of Pi, Lincoln and Les Miserables. Once a month a film with Jewish content and a foreign film are featured. That's a great opportunity for me to keep up with outstanding films.
I also get to see a movie on Comcast Xfinity ON DEMAND.
The other night I saw Neil Simon's "Brighton Beach Memoirs."
Now, that was a great movie!
I laughed, I smiled, I cried and remembered how wonderful a movie can be.
Thursday, May 02, 2013
NINE MONTHS LATER: What It's Like to Live at Brooksby Village
Ordinarily when you hear or read something that says "nine months" you think of the word, "pregnant!"
In this case, I'm referring to the length of time that I have been a resident at Brooksby Village.
Image: Millie with new mirror at Brooksby Village
Here's a video that Steve took after I had been at Brooksby Village for one month.
What surprised me was that most of my thoughts and experiences were the same as how I feel today, nine months later.
The service is good, if I need some kind of help, I just make a call, and usually someone is Johnny on the spot or they refer me to someone that can provide the service I need.
Nine months ago I spoke about the friendly people that I was meeting. Well, that hasn't changed. As a matter of fact as time goes by I'm meeting more people, pretty much every day.
(Oh, if only I could remember their names!)
The other night my friend and I were seated at a table with a couple who had just returned from wintering in Florida. It turns out that the gentleman graduated from Chelsea High School a year after I did! We had quite a chat about the city, school and students that we both knew.
While I was "doing all the things that you have to do" before making the "big move' I was under a lot of stress, I just lost my appetite. This continued for a few months. I kept losing weight even though the food was good and people were telling me that new comers get the Brooksby Bulge.
Not to worry, I'm back to normal, enjoying the food and do NOT have the Brooksby Bulge!
Steve did a great job zeroing in on my apartment and the beautiful grounds at Brooksby.
I've made a few changes in the apartment since I moved in.
Image: Millie's Bedroom at Brooksby Village
One recent purchase is an ottoman which will give me a place to put "out of season clothes and whatnots."
MY ADVICE TO PROSPECTIVE RESIDENTS
If Steve asked me the same questions today that he did nine months ago I would say, I feel the same way today as I did then.
Wouldn't change a word!
Thanks to Steve and Carol for their moral support, physical help, encouragement and love.
I wouldn't be here without their love and caring.
Yes, after nine months, I can say, "I'm very happy living here at Brooksby Village."
Saturday, April 13, 2013
STEVE TOOK HIS MOM FOR A RIDE!!!
I'm sure you have heard the expression, "I was taken for a ride", which when used could mean "I didn't know what hit me" or "boy did that cost me big bucks."
Well, here's my story:
Steve had the opportunity to try out a new 2013 Cadillac ATS for a week.
He also had the thought that he wanted to take his mom for a ride to see how she felt about all that the car had to offer.
It so happened that I needed new patio chairs.
Steve knew they were on sale at Home Depot and thought they just might be what I was looking for.
What a great opportunity that was.
I would get a ride in that beautiful brand new Cadillac and also get the chairs I needed.
We made a date, he picked me up, and sure enough after trying various chairs I found a model that only looked good but they were also comfortable to sit on.
Anyone who's a senior and reading this knows, "the chair has to have arms and be easy to get out of!" Heaven forbid, if you sit in a chair without arms, you have a problem!
The attached video will tell you a lot about my experience that day and why I said "I was taken for a ride!"
I DID NOT KNOW that Steve had a camera going during that conversation!
If I could I would edit certain parts of the video but believe me, it's all au natural!
The chairs are great!
Sunday, April 07, 2013
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RONNI AND CRABBY OLD LADY
Today's the day that Ronni and her buddy Crabby Old Lady share another birthday.
Just the other day Ronni's buddy made a post about "all the things that could go wrong in a day, went wrong."
She said she didn't have a 'meatier story' that day:
Crabby Old Lady is acutely aware that this is a post so self-indulgent and so light and airy you may not be able to see it on your screen. She has several meatier stories in various stages of production but couldn't make one of them ready because her time yesterday got eaten up by ephemera – stupid, ordinary errands and chores that repeatedly went wrong. All day.Well Ronni, I hate to say this on your birthday but "you were wrong."
That was not only a meaty post, but it was a great one!
We have all had days like that and your sharing it with me made me think, "Oh, that happens to the best of us."
No matter what you write about, whether it's serious stuff, fun stuff or your Saturday stuff, it's always something that I can learn from or something that gives me a smile!
Enjoy this birthday, wishing you good health, happy days and very few days that you might have Crabby Old Lady share with us!
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Passover - NOW AND THEN
Last Friday was Good Friday, tomorrow is Easter Sunday, and for the past eight days the Jewish people observed Passover.
These Spring-time holidays got me thinking about all the different ways, and different people I have shared Passover with over the years.
Photo by Howard Walfish CC BY-NC-SA
When I was a child, Passover was celebrated at home with my mother, father and a few close family members.
The highlight of Passover is the observance of the Sedar which is held on the first and second nights.
During the service there is a point where we welcome Elijah to drink the wine that has been poured for him.
Every Passover, that I remember as a child, this took place.
I was a trusting child but I had my doubts about there really being an Elijah.
One Passover I had just "had it."
How could this happen? Who was this strange person, and how did he know to show up every year?
I JUST DIDN'T BELIEVE IT, so I decided to take a small piece of matzo and stick it on to Elijah's glass and see if he really did show up and take a drink!
No, he did not drink any of the wine!
Imagine what would have happened to him if he did partake in every Jewish home!
Many of those years were shared with my family and my husband's family. Most years were at their homes and in later years when the families grew we would celebrate the holiday at a temple or a function hall.
As time went by changes happened - close family members were no longer with us. When the family got smaller it was back to observing Passover at home.
Being in Florida during Passover was a totally different experience! One year Aaron and I held the Seder at our Condo. There were a handful of cousins living in Florida at the time so we shared the holiday with them. One year we invited new and old friends for the evening.
One year we joined an organization which was holding a Seder at a fine country club. There was a Rabbi there to take us though the seder, there was a fine kosher meal with all the trimmings AND there was a band to dance to!
What a way to celebrate Passover! ONLY IN FLORIDA!
There were years that we went to restaurants that had a token service, not much of a seder but plenty of good food!
In my last few years in Florida my dear cousins invited me to share the holiday at their home with family and friends. Those get togethers were very special to me, every Seder had something special about it, the food was always great but the most memorable thing about it all was sharing the holiday with them.
Never did I imagine that I would be sharing a Seder with Steve and Carol at Brooksby Village.
There is a Jewish Council here that offers Friday night services, Jewish Films, a Yiddish Class and much more.
We joined a group of about one hundred people for a service and dinner right here on the premises.
A good time was had by all, the guests participated in the service, the gefilte fish, chicken soup with matzo balls and the brisket were all delicious - and I didn't have to cook one bit!
Thursday, March 21, 2013
IF YOU DON'T GO OUT, NOTHING HAPPENS
How many times have you decided that you would rather stay home and watch TV rather than make the effort to get dressed, put on your makeup or if you are a guy, take a shave and get out of those comfortable jean, just to maybe have a fun or interesting experience.
I've heard all kinds of stories about people who have said to themselves, "maybe I'll just stay home, why make the effort, last time I went to that meeting it was dull, no one of interest was there, it's cold out, it's hot out."
They think negatively, so nothing happens.
When I was growing up I learned many things from my parents. Some things I learned by observing, some things I learned by listening, and some by what my mother told me.
One of the best things she ever told me was - "IF YOU DON'T GO OUT, NOTHING HAPPENS."
There are times when I choose to stay home. I'm tired, I don't feel well, there is a TV show I want to watch, or there's a book I want to read.
That's ok, but really nothing much happens.
And then there are times that I join some friends for dinner, for a a movie, or go to a meeting.
That's a good thing.
Sometimes there is an event that I want to go to, but no one I know is available or interested.
I go myself, and what do you know, I have a great time.
I recently went(myself) to a musical event that featured music of the 50's.
I enjoyed it immensely.
Seated next to me was a woman who had also gone to the event by herself.
We got to talking and she told me about a book club in the area that she attends and told me where and when this group meets.
I marked my calendar!
There have been other occasions when I got to talk to people, learned about them, and what they enjoy doing.
Sometimes it's something I'd like to do too.
I'm not a gambler, but sometimes it's good to take a chance and try something new.
Now that I've told you about my mother's most impressive saying, I want to tell you what my favorite saying is to myself at this time in my life.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE LITTLE!
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
KINGS POINT DOCUMENTARY TELLS THE HARD TRUTH ABOUT AGING
First off I want to thank Ronni Bennett from Times Goes By for her Saturday "Interesting Stuff post" about the "Kings Point Documentary" which was shown on HBO Sunday night. My husband and I spent many wonderful winters there and if I had missed seeing this documentary I would have missed something that was very special to me.
From the very moment the film started I was captivated by how "they explained" what was going on in New York in 1972, there were population changes, thefts and serious crimes that were affecting the daily lives of the residents.
At that time a Senior Retirement community in Florida started offering condominiums at a very reasonable price. When the New Yorkers learned about Kings Point they stood in line to buy a little bit of heaven. They packed up, left friends and family and started a new life.
This film was ten years in the making and follows the lives of six people who express their thoughts about their life experiences.
So much of what they had to say are things that I have felt, thought and discussed with my friends as time goes by.
For example: One gentleman explains to a lady friend - he loves her, enjoys the companionship but
he doesn't want anymore than that because he says, "he buried one wife and that's enough for him."
A woman says, "my children want me back up North." "My daughter has her life - my grandchildren have their lives." "I'm staying here."
Another woman said, "A man would like me to take care of him, I just have to take care of myself. (that reminds me of a saying I heard in Florida -" the man wants a nurse with a purse.")"
I found most of the documentary sad because it was mostly about what has happened to the residents in recent years. For example: One scene takes place in the ballroom on New Years eve, the place is jumping, as only seniors can jump, not much.
The next scene shows the same couple dancing years latter. There are just a few people present and the lady says to her gentleman friend, years ago you had to stand in line to make sure you got a ticket for the NewYears Eve dance. "Sad."
What I did enjoy about this film was when they had shots of "my familiar hangouts like the Burgundy Pool, the Flanders Clubhouse, Monaco clubhouse and even where we dumped the trash!
I was always a snowbird, only there for the winter and did not own a condo so when it came time to stay up north, I just walked away. Seeing this film got me thinking about how lucky I was to be at Kings Point in its hey day and able to share good times with family and friends.
Wednesday, March 06, 2013
MORE SNOW ON THE WAY
When I was a kid one of my favorite sayings was, "Snow snow, go away, come again another day."
Today as an adult I don't like that saying at all. I want that snow to STOP coming and not come back for a very long time.
The weather man says that white stuff is going to start again tonight and continue through the day tomorrow.
I don't have to go out in the snow, rain or wind,. Whatever I have to do, it can wait for a nice sunny day whenever that will happen!!! At this point in time I want to put away the heavy coat, wool sweaters, gloves and hats. Oh, to go out in a short sleeve top and shorts!!!
What to do to bring the sunshine in, or at least pretend that it is here?
I needed ideas and what do you know I got them from Beverly Beckham who writes for the Boston Globe. Her articles appear in the North section of the Sunday newspaper.
Well this past Sunday Beverly had a column entitled "Think spring...spring...spring." Her approach was so different from the way I had written about "snow' in a recent post. I enjoyed her positive approach dealing with winter!
She wrote about some tried and true tricks that could ward off those winter blues.
Here are a few of my favorites that I'd like to share with anyone who can't wait for spring to arrive.
1. Listen to summer songs. "Summertime," "Those Lazy HazyDays of Summer," "Old Cape Cod."
2. Buy tulips and set them in a clear glass vase on the kitchen table.
3. Get a pedicure. Sit back, relax, put your feet in the water and think summer!
4. Wear something colorful like yellow or pink.
5. Look at photos of summers past and smile.
Beverly, I'm going to keep your "Think spring" until the real thing comes along.
Every time I read it, it does make me feel better. Thanks. ;-)
Sunday, February 24, 2013
WHAT IT TOOK TO WARM ME UP
For many winters I've been taking off for Florida, escaping all that "cold stuff" that happens up in New England. Well I am now living the life of a Northerner, no longer a "snowbird."
For months now, I have had the same question asked of me, "do you miss Florida?"
My answer, up until very recently was, "no, not at all."
Well let me tell you after all the snow, cold and wind we've had I can't help but think of the sunny days at the pool, just taking a walk at the beach, and enjoying those beautiful cool evenings in Florida.
If someone asked me that question today I'd say, Yes, I do miss all that!
It's the middle of February, Winter is almost over, but there is still March, and even April, to get through.
Before I go out to do an errand, I make sure it's not freezing, windy or slippery out there. Whatever I have to do can wait until the "sun shines Nellie."
It's snowing right now - I'm home, I have the heat on and it's working just fine.
I'm wearing a sweat shirt, long sleeve shirt and sweat pants but still feel chilly.
Maybe it's mind over matter or maybe it's a cold coming on.
RELIEF IS ON THE WAY
This morning when I read the Boston Globe there was a very interesting article about one of my very favorite actors, the 90 year old Carl Reiner, who has written a new memoir "I Remember Me."
What I found especially interesting was what George Shapiro, Carl's manager, tells the readers in this piece.
"Carl recently acquired an iPad, which he is learning to use. It's great because if he wakes up at 3 in the morning and has a tweet, he can just get it right out. I think he's the oldest living tweeter."
Aha, Carl's 90 - I'm a close 87! I tweet too!
When I see something like that in the paper I share it with my son Steve. I sent it off to him and "what do you know" no sooner could you say, "in the blink of an eye," I received an e-mail from Steve telling me that he's sending me a copy of Carl Reiner's book, "I Remember Me."
He also shared his purchase on twitter.
Now that's something that warms my heart!
Sunday, February 17, 2013
MILLIE GOES TO THE OPERA
I did something very exciting and special yesterday! I attended a matinee of Verdi's Rigoletto that was telecast to theaters around the world. It was broadcast live to 1,900 movie theaters and I was present to share in that experience!
Our group arrived an hour before showtime, no sooner did we get settled when the screen took us to the opera where we saw the workers preparing the set.
We also saw the people arriving, getting settled in their seats as we had done.
Renee Fleming To Host Metropolitan Opera's Live In HD Broadcast Of Verdi's Rigoletto Featuring Piotr Beczala, Željko Lucic, Diana Damrau.
Before the opera started the HD host Renne Fleming interviewed the producer Michael Meyer who spoke about how he felt Rigoletto could be transformed from the 16th century Mantua to a 1960 hotel and casino on The Strip in Las Vegas. Both had plenty of shady characters, drinkers, gamblers and womanizers in their towns.
When it came to casting "The Rat Pack" was a natural - The Duke of Mantua was the 60's "Old Blue Eyes, Frank Sinatra (wearing a tuxedo most of the time).
I've never been to the opera or had much exposure to the music so seeing it in a modern setting was an ideal way to get familiar with it. I wonder how the died in the wool opera goer feels about that.
I read the story of Rigoletto beforehand, but you know how that goes. It's like a twisted soap opera.
What helped a lot was that there were subtitles throughout the entire performance so I was able to put two and two together.
Between the three acts there were 15 minute intermissions where Renee Fleming interviewed various cast members. To see them as individuals and hear them speak after having seen them perform was a treat. And Renee herself is no slouch. What a charmer she is!
The high drama takes place in the last act.
I don't have to say that the following is a spoiler because if you are familiar with the story line you know that Gilda, Rigoletto's daughter, dies at the end but it's the way she dies! She's stabbed to death and is placed in the trunk of a car.
Dad finds her in the trunk and is devastated, sings to her, she's dead but she responds - Then she dies!!!
Now that I've seen Rigoletto I'd like to see and hear more of the music that I just experienced!
I'd love to hear from fellow bloggers who are opera goers or have been to an HD presentation.
Monday, February 11, 2013
DOWNTON ABBEY STUFF
Time did not fly in the two hour presentation of Downton Abby, which I watched last night. The goal of the show was to tie up all the loose ends of the many characters who's lives had to be tied up!
Glory be, as the season progressed, I began to know the names and status of many of the residents of Downton Abby. Let me tell you, it wasn't easy, and I'm still not sure who's who.
Last night they introduced a young lady who had a zest for life. Who needed her? If they had left her out that would have shortened the show by at least ten minutes, and we'll probably never see her again!
For those of you who haven't watched this program, I'll tell you a little about the older single daughter of Lord and Lady Grantham. She was left standing at the alter by her noble groom, who felt is was not fair to marry her because of his age and health.
Why did he wait until he was at the alter to walk out on her?
I'll tell you why, because it made a good dramatic scene and now it ties in to what is happening in her life!
Edith applied for a newspaper writing position, was hired by Gregson the editor. He recognized her ability and found her attractive. Before she took the job, she made a phone call and found out that he was A MARRIED MAN.
Today when we want to find out about someone we check with Google.
In the early 20th century who would you call? I was surprised she was given Gregson's personal information.
I'll tell you why, because it made a good dramatic scene, and it will open the door to a romantic situation!
The time they spent telling Edith's story was worthwhile.
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If I had been watching last night's show with a friend, I would have called out, "what was that?!!!"
Lady Grantham, the charming and refined lady of the house used the word "stuff"?!!!
Next thing I know they will have Maggie Smith, who plays the part of a Dowager Countess, saying "stuff."
Ben Schmidt also noticed the anachronisms.
Update: Ben Schmidt looks into, What sort of "stuff" would the Crawleys use?
I discussed this with Steve this morning and he reminded me about the times that his father would correct his English especially when he used the word "stuff."
Aaron, your efforts paid off, you would be very proud to hear how well spoken our son is.
BONUS: DOWNTON SIXBY
A while ago I saw Jimmy Fallon and company do a take-off on Downton Abbey. It was very funny and the characters were very well done.
Saturday, February 09, 2013
Vote for my mom! Best Blogger Best Senior Living Awards 2013
Hi! Steve here.
My Mom's Blog has made it to the finals in the SeniorHomes.com Best Senior Living Awards 2013 in the Best Senior Living Blogs by Individuals 2013 category.
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Image: My Mom, 87 year old blogger!
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They’ll be selecting two winners per category:
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